August 9, 2018
Hello little “Hunny” bees! I am so sorry for the inactivity on this blog but what with a crazy work schedule,
there hasn’t been too much time for me to just sit and write. I am hoping that will change though and that I
can get back into the swing of things very shortly!!
there hasn’t been too much time for me to just sit and write. I am hoping that will change though and that I
can get back into the swing of things very shortly!!
Today, I really wanted to share some insight with you all that I have been applying to my life and I feel that
many of us, in our twenties or just entering our twenties need to slow down and think about.
many of us, in our twenties or just entering our twenties need to slow down and think about.
I have always been the hardest critic on myself throughout my entire life, as most of us are. I have come
from a family background in which, yes, I had a happy childhood and turned out to be a very happy
individual that has much respect and love for my parents but, there were a lot of struggles that I faced
growing up that caused me to worry about big issues from a young age. That sounds depressing but it
really isn’t. I had a fun and great childhood full of fun memories and I don’t necessarily resent the fact that
I grew up the way that I did, with knowledge of the factors of the world you face when you become an
adult. I think it really motivated me to have big dreams and goals, which I do. A negative thing that I have
been dealing with for the majority of my life is being on a timeline. All my life, I have enforced upon
myself that things need to happen by a certain time. I need to finish community college by 20, transfer to
a university, receive my bachelor’s degree and teaching credential by 23, start teaching by 25, get married
by 26, have my first kid by 28… and so on and so on blah blah blahbity blah. Those are not unrealistic
goals but they aren’t really needed to happen by that specific age I had set for myself. I have yet to finish
community college yet and I am 21.. OMG! A YEAR LATE? Big deal, right? No. Not really.
from a family background in which, yes, I had a happy childhood and turned out to be a very happy
individual that has much respect and love for my parents but, there were a lot of struggles that I faced
growing up that caused me to worry about big issues from a young age. That sounds depressing but it
really isn’t. I had a fun and great childhood full of fun memories and I don’t necessarily resent the fact that
I grew up the way that I did, with knowledge of the factors of the world you face when you become an
adult. I think it really motivated me to have big dreams and goals, which I do. A negative thing that I have
been dealing with for the majority of my life is being on a timeline. All my life, I have enforced upon
myself that things need to happen by a certain time. I need to finish community college by 20, transfer to
a university, receive my bachelor’s degree and teaching credential by 23, start teaching by 25, get married
by 26, have my first kid by 28… and so on and so on blah blah blahbity blah. Those are not unrealistic
goals but they aren’t really needed to happen by that specific age I had set for myself. I have yet to finish
community college yet and I am 21.. OMG! A YEAR LATE? Big deal, right? No. Not really.
I’ve been working in childcare for about 2.5 years now and have gained a lot of knowledge through my
experiences. It is taking me a little longer to finish up my schooling but that doesn’t mean that I am not or
will not be successful. I have taken some time to really think about that and understand that things change.
Life is not going to go the exact way that you envision and plan it to go. There will be obstacles along
with opportunities and that is okay. Practice a “no timeline” or “modified timeline” rule. You don’t need
to give up on your goals and dreams but make baby steps toward that big picture. Focus on goals you can
accomplish in a week, a month, a few months, then escalate to working on bigger ones like a year or
multiple years. Motivate yourself by allowing time to stop and smell the flowers, no matter what that may
mean to you. To some of us, that is relaxing on the front porch with a cup of coffee and a good book,
while to others, it means working up a hard sweat at the gym. Have some “me-time.” It is okay to put your
needs first and remember to take care of yourself. I don’t know why but that simple phrase stood out to me
so much when I was going through a recent training for a new job. One of the leaders told us to “remember
to take care of yourselves.” It is such a simple saying but has so much behind it. You need to prioritize your
mental health, physical health, happiness, and well-being no matter how much you watch out for everyone
else through work and your personal life. You will fall apart if you do not allow yourself some down time.
I have learned that the hard way, taking on more responsibility than I could handle. That doesn’t make me
a failure although it felt like it at the time. It just means that I am human and I can’t work 50+ hours a week,
have “me-time,” have a social life, eat healthy, get enough sleep and be a student… It isn’t realistic. I think
that is a problem that many of us young adults that are still new to the “adulting” thing struggle with. It is
okay. We’re all going to figure it out. You’re having a hard day, not a hard life. I don’t know what anyone
is going through and I am not saying that to diminish your feelings but I mean that as in things will get
better. You will figure this out and as long as you choose to WANT to do that, your future will be bright
no matter what circumstances you face at this very moment.
experiences. It is taking me a little longer to finish up my schooling but that doesn’t mean that I am not or
will not be successful. I have taken some time to really think about that and understand that things change.
Life is not going to go the exact way that you envision and plan it to go. There will be obstacles along
with opportunities and that is okay. Practice a “no timeline” or “modified timeline” rule. You don’t need
to give up on your goals and dreams but make baby steps toward that big picture. Focus on goals you can
accomplish in a week, a month, a few months, then escalate to working on bigger ones like a year or
multiple years. Motivate yourself by allowing time to stop and smell the flowers, no matter what that may
mean to you. To some of us, that is relaxing on the front porch with a cup of coffee and a good book,
while to others, it means working up a hard sweat at the gym. Have some “me-time.” It is okay to put your
needs first and remember to take care of yourself. I don’t know why but that simple phrase stood out to me
so much when I was going through a recent training for a new job. One of the leaders told us to “remember
to take care of yourselves.” It is such a simple saying but has so much behind it. You need to prioritize your
mental health, physical health, happiness, and well-being no matter how much you watch out for everyone
else through work and your personal life. You will fall apart if you do not allow yourself some down time.
I have learned that the hard way, taking on more responsibility than I could handle. That doesn’t make me
a failure although it felt like it at the time. It just means that I am human and I can’t work 50+ hours a week,
have “me-time,” have a social life, eat healthy, get enough sleep and be a student… It isn’t realistic. I think
that is a problem that many of us young adults that are still new to the “adulting” thing struggle with. It is
okay. We’re all going to figure it out. You’re having a hard day, not a hard life. I don’t know what anyone
is going through and I am not saying that to diminish your feelings but I mean that as in things will get
better. You will figure this out and as long as you choose to WANT to do that, your future will be bright
no matter what circumstances you face at this very moment.
“Life is tough but so are you,” as said by multiple authors, teachers, therapists, moms and friends. Don’t
give up just yet. The balance within your life will come to you so long as you allow it to.
give up just yet. The balance within your life will come to you so long as you allow it to.
I wish you all nothing but peace and happiness as you go through the chaos of your lives. I hope you find
something as “sweet as honey” within your lives today.
something as “sweet as honey” within your lives today.
Lots of Love,
Meena♡
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